there's an upcoming wedding; i haven't decided if i will go or not. for one, it's during work hours and i don't think i can leave work again since i have been out for a long time because i got really sick.
another reason, i'm not really into this particular wedding if i may say. personally, i think one of the main reasons (besides the food...he he) to go to a wedding is because you share the joy of the couple- what if you don't feel that joy? that "dreamy" feeling when you attend weddings- should you still go? should you for the sake of just being there so that the couple won't feel bad? will they actually notice if you're there or not?
i know i have to make up my mind soon- my deadline is tomorrow. but whatever the decision will be, i will have to inform the couple and their coordinator. here are some reasons why i think this is a must-do for every wedding you are invited to.
if you will attend:
-it will help the couple finalize their guest list and plan the seating arrangement. this will eliminate awkward moments trying to spot an empty seat in a table where you would feel comfy in.
-the couple can count you in their budget! yes, your presence will entail a cost, you're that special!
-it also tells the them that they should expect you to be there and share with them the most special moment in their lives.
if you will not attend:
-the couple may choose to give your seat to people in their guest list they tagged as "next priority" in our culture, we love big weddings and this is more likely to happen.
-for budget reasons again. should the couple not choose to give your seat to somebody else, letting them know you can't come would tell them to minus you from the expenses they are expecting.
it actually all boils down to this: confirming your attendance is the proper thing to do and what the r.s.v.p. is for. it is kinda like calling before you drop by your any of your friend's house- you wouldn't want an unwanted and unexpected visitor right?!
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